It’s here!!

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Make each fresh day of this new year a little better than yesterday.

daily optimizations will soon lead to exponential improvements.

What Younger You Would Like About Present You

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Most of us know our failures personally, on a deep level. But what about if your life has turned out to be bigger, brighter, sparklier than you ever could have imagined? What would make 13-year-old you delighted, if not disbelieving? Maybe you have the job you never thought attainable, you prima ballerina/doctor/patisserie owner/rocket designer you. Maybe you have the greatest partner in the world, or five cats, or a late-discovered but amazing faculty for acquiring new languages. Escribe, por favor.

Failure, embrace it!

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‘The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one.’ Hubbard

My objective today is to help you fail more, embrace failure – not love it,

YES it hurts but, in many cases

THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO LEARN.

In the words of Tal Beh Shahar, Harvard University professor,

‘We learn to

  • walk by falling
  • to talk by babbling
  • to eat by making a mess
  • to colour inside the box by scribbling outside the box’

In the words of Roosevelt,’there is no effort without error…the credit belongs to the man in the arena, it is not the critic who counts’

Live is too short for us to live it any other way!

So let’s fail our way to success:

Where can you dare greatly?

Where do you need to take more risks?

Put yourself on the line and fail your way to success!

Conflict in the office

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Dealing with a difficult colleague this week gave me the opportunity to reflect, question my own contribution and come up with my own personal 6 point plan – allow me to share!

  • Be introspective, use the conflict as a chance to learn by taking responsibility
  • Don’t be tempted to gossip – sharing quickly becomes toxic
  • Get solution focussed,allow yourself 10% on the problem, 90% on the solution
  • Speak to the person directly, using ‘I….’& not ‘you….’
  • Keep a record just incase it escalates (fortunately not in my case!)
  • Grow from the experience

There you have it, with this little check list under your belt and maybe you can even embrace the next challenge with relish!

Work happier: HOW?

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I don’t know about you but with the stresses and strains of the modern working environment my naturally positively  focussed brain has learnt to scan for the danger zone – the ‘negatives’. We are well aware here at The Coach Approach that what you focus on is what you get so how to do a little home-based brain rewiring?

Well, it just so happens that we have a 21-day,  5-point plan at The Coach Approach to do just that!”

Interested?

Then buy a little note-book/journal and keep on reading…….

  1. Scan your brain every 24 hours to find one good positive experience – then write it down.(By writing it down you’ll be accessing again those positive emotions.)
  2. Write down 3 things that you are grateful for  – 3 different things every day for the 21 days.
  3. Exercise daily – wherever you are, from zero to hero – add 10 minutes to show your subconscious that you’re worth it.
  4. Start a meditation practise, just 3-5 minutes of focussed breathing will help centre yourself in this information over-loaded society we live in.
  5. Follow the advice of the positive psychologists and do one random act of kindness every day – don’t forget the joy belongs to both the receiver and the giver!

We believe at The Coach Approach that everyone deserves a good day!

How’s yours looking?

 

2013 in review

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The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,500 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 25 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

4 Steps To Make Those Goals Count

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Q: Why are Goals so incredibly POWERFUL?
A: Because what it makes of you will ALWAYS be more powerful than what it gets for you.

Want to hone in on what’s important, get focused and define your dream?
Then follow these steps!

1. Focus and evaluate, what’s your present situation concerning key areas of your life, is that ok?

2. If it’s not ok then what do you want? (Think dreams and goals and give yourself permission to think BIG!)

3. Set those Goals in the positive and make them S.M.A.R.T. – that’s Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timed

4. Hold yourself accountable by using a Coach to keep you on track.

Use these 4 steps to put yourself in the driver’s seat for achieving success as you define it.

2014 – CLAIM IT!

7 HABITS TO START YOUR WEEK WELL

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Watch out for that high stress, constant anxiety over tasks and work and life, social anxiety …  the modern way of life.

Decide to start this week with a sense of peace, of calm, of serenity.

You can’t control the things that happen to you much of the time, and you certainly can’t control how other people act. The only thing you can control is your response — and this response matters. You can respond to the same event with anxiety or anger, or you can respond with peace and calmness.

Let’s figure out how.

The Habits of Calmness

  1. A calm morning ritual. Find the quiet of the morning and make the most of it.
  2. Learn to watch your response. When something stressful happens, what is your response?
  3. Don’t take things personallyYou can learn not to interpret events as a personal affront, and instead see it as some non-personal external event (like a leaf falling, a bird flying by) that you can either respond to without a stressful mindset, or not need to respond to at all.
  4. Be grateful. Drop the complaints, and find a way to be grateful, no matter what. And then smile. This unbending habit can change your life.
  5. Create stress coping habits. Healthy stress coping habits include: exercise, yoga, meditation, massaging your own neck & shoulders, taking a walk, drinking some water, talking with someone you care about – which ones are you doing?
  6. Single-task. What if you just did one thing, and learned to trust that you shouldn’t be doing anything else? It takes practice: just eat. Just wash your bowl. Just walk. Just talk to someone. Just read one article or book, without switching. Just write. Just do your email, one at a time. You’ll learn that there is peace in just doing one thing, and letting go of everything else.
  7. Reduce noise. Our lives are filled with all kinds of noise — visual clutter, notifications, social media, news, all the things we need to read. Reduce all these things and more, create some space, some quiet, in your life.

Well Being

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Thank you to Valerie for sharing that amazing short video on Well Being in the previous post. Just love the structure, satisfying the conscious mind:

  • Positive emotions
  • Engagement
  • Relationships
  • Meaning
  • Accomplishment

That got me thinking, time for the unconscious mind to play…

how can we develop these key areas to make life even more fulfilling?

In other words, how can we build on the best things in life?

How about posing one of these profound questions before you go to sleep and let the unconscious mind work on it, just watch out for the messages as it delivers the results!

Your insights please!

2012 in review

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The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 2,200 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 4 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.