Well Being

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Thank you to Valerie for sharing that amazing short video on Well Being in the previous post. Just love the structure, satisfying the conscious mind:

  • Positive emotions
  • Engagement
  • Relationships
  • Meaning
  • Accomplishment

That got me thinking, time for the unconscious mind to play…

how can we develop these key areas to make life even more fulfilling?

In other words, how can we build on the best things in life?

How about posing one of these profound questions before you go to sleep and let the unconscious mind work on it, just watch out for the messages as it delivers the results!

Your insights please!

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2012 in review

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The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 2,200 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 4 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

Are you fully participating in today?

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….. to today!

There is absolutely nothing more threatening to your future potential than spending your present time dwelling on the past. Whatever has happened is now over. Victory or defeat, once the bells struck midnight, the day was done, gone for ever! Every morning you are reborn and who you are each single day is defined by what you do that single day & that single day only. You are not your past. You are only your present & your present actions determine your future.

So, pondering today’s potential, let’s take strength from the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

Values as your Personal Navigation System

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Let’s take a brief glance at values: what are values exactly?

Can you aquire them? Should you select them according to perceived correctness?

No: everyone’s set of values are unique to them and, when honoured, serve as a valuable guide.

Kind of similar to you own personal navigation system, showing you the best way to go.

Not sure what yours are?

Then take a few minutes and try the following 2 mini exercises to get some insight.

Peak moments in time

Identify peak moments when life was at its most rewarding.

Focus specifically on ‘the moment’, not the details.

What was important about this moment?

What were the values being honoured in the moment?

What values were you living in this moment?

Suppressed values

Think of a time you were willing to get into trouble.

Look at the feeling then flip it over to the opposite of the feeling to find the value.

Think of a time you were angry, frustrated or upset.

Look at the feeling then flip it to get the opposite of the feeling to find the value.

Claim back that which is rightfully yours!

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Working with a client today I realized yet again that, as women, our self-worth is something that is often underestimated, not by other people but – even worse – by ourselves!

Hiring a professional coach can be the fast track way of getting to the root of this issue, rediscover your true worth and claim back your power.  For those of you however who, for some reason, are not in a position to do this here are some great self-coaching questions to ponder:

  • When (at what specific situations) do you feel really great?
  • What are you good at? What makes you a special person?
  • What compliments do you receive from others?
  • How will your life be different when you develop higher self-esteem? What will it feel like?
  • In which areas would you like to develop self-esteem the most?
  • How will you do that? Which skills do you need? Who can help you?
  • What is it that you will be able to do/be/have when you have higher self-esteem?
  • What is your specific goal in raising your self-esteem? How will you measure it and know for sure when you have reached it?
  • What action steps can you take to claim that self-worth which is so rightfully yours?
  • Who else will benefit by your stepping into confidence and claiming it for yourself?

enter the YES zone

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The Coach Approach is to say “YES” to life: “yes” to all of it!

Don’t you just love that?

Say “yes” right now, this very second.

Shout it out “Yes, yes, yes, and again yes!”

How does that feel? Energized?

Now try this, “No.” “No, no, no, and again no!”

Feel any difference? If you’re like me, “Yes!” has a lightness, a  zesty energy and “No!” has a heaviness, shutting down of energy.

Open up to ALL of life. The ups, the downs, the opportunities to let your soul shine.

Embrace it – shout out “Yes!”

How to build Self-Esteem:

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10 questions to discover true worth and claim back power

1.   When (at what specific situations) do you feel really great?
2.   What are you good at? What makes you a special person?
3.   What compliments do you receive from others?
4.   How will your life be different when you develop higher self-esteem?
5.   In which areas would you like to develop self-esteem the most?
6.   How will you do that? Which skills do you need? Who can help you?
7.   What is it that you will be able to do/be/have when you have higher self-esteem?
8.   What is your specific goal in raising your self-esteem? How will you    measure it  and know for sure when you have reached it?
9.   What action steps can you take to claim that self-worth which is so rightfully yours?
10.   Who else will benefit by your stepping into confidence and claiming it for yourself?

The Kindness of Strangers: meet Gina e Paolo

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The kindness of strangers:

A few days ago, when travelling with 2 friends, we found ourselves stranded in the middle of Italy following a train accident, 60 km away from our airport with very little time & no way to reach our destination.

Until that is, 2 kind strangers, Gina e Paolo, scooped us up off the sidewalk, changed their route, tackled early morning autostrada traffic jams to skid to a halt at the last minute outside the terminal to watch us rush off at break-neck speed into the milling masses of commuter passengers.

 Why? Because they were good, kind charitable people!

Upon reflection I have come to understand that we received 2 benefits: first, being able to catch our flight but, secondly, and maybe even more important, was the experience of feeling deep appreciation and gratitude.

 Wikipedia definitions of kindness & gratitude:

Kindness is the act or the state of being kind, being marked by good and charitable behavior, pleasant disposition, and concern for others. It is known as a virtue, and recognized as a value in many cultures and religions

Gratitude, thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation is a feeling, emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive.

So, it follows that, by being kind, not only does the recipient of your kindness benefit from the act  but also from the ensuing feelings of gratitude.

In which ways can you be kind today? Which acts of kindness have you received?

THANK YOU GINA E PAOLO

What do you think about this quote from a recent school reunion?

“There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.”

“One of these days is YESTERDAY, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed or erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone.”

“The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW, with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise, and its poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.”

“This leaves only one day, TODAY. Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities—Yesterday and Tomorrow—that we break down.”

“It is not the experience of Today that drives us mad, it is remorse and bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. Let us therefore… Live this one full TODAY.”

So, in the words of Malcolm Forbes, “never say die until you’re dead.”

It is difficult to be depressed and active at the same time. So let’s together get active and LIVE TODAY!

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A time to reflect

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‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca

As my birthday approaches I think about what I’ve learned, allow me to share my thoughts:

Love the small pleasures of life. A jog in the evening light, a square of rich, dark chocolate with a strong coffee, a good book to enjoy after a productive day, a moment of quiet as the birds sing…

Want little and you are rich. You can have a lot of money and possessions, but if you are always looking for more, you are not as well off as she who has little but is satisfied. Not wanting something is as good as possessing it.

Be grateful for the life you have. Every day is a gift, not to be full of deadlines but to be savoured and appreciated, spend time enjoying it, not devouring it.

See life as a garden, not a road. Where we go matters less than what we notice.