“I know some people say “Keep your eyes on the prize,” but I disagree. When your eyes are stuck on the prize, you’re going to keep stumbling and crashing into things. If you really want to get ahead, you’ve got to keep your eyes focused on the path.” ~ Russell Simmons from Do You!
Here at The Coach Approach we support you in clearly defining your personal and organizational goals and values – “the prize”. Then, starting with the end in mind, we help you to focus on the steps required to completely immerse yourself in doing your best moment to moment. Focusing on the effort, instead of the results of that effort, keeps your eyes on the path and leads to the prize!
Have you ever noticed how some of the simplest questions can actually provide some of the most transformative answers? Here’s one of our favourite questions which we use with great results: “Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly gotten better?”
Helping clients to imagine that the miracle has already happened has powerful implications about the clients’ need to do something different. As their reflections begin flowing, they frequently describe improvements in detailed, behavioural terms – and they recognize their own involvement in implementing solutions!
We like to follow up with other questions such as: ” What would be the first thing you would do?”; “What would you have to do so that it would happen more often?”; “What else would you be doing differently?”.
What are some of the questions you could use to jump-start positive changes in your life and work?
The American psychologist James Hillman first proposed the “acorn theory” in his book entitled “The Soul’s Code: In Search of Character and Calling”. He suggested that every individual already holds their potential inside themselves from birth, just as the acorn already holds the pattern for an oak tree. Each individual’s unique energy becomes actualized through their choices and actions in life once they answer their life calling, much like an acorn turns into an oak tree and matures when it finally blossoms. Without denying the existence of both nature and nurture in human development, let’s look at our own individual achievements, character, and aspirations and ask ourselves: “How am I responding to my inner acorn?”
At the Coach Approach, we like to speak of both the Art and the Science of coaching. So what is the science? In a nutshell, it is what is known today as Positive Psychology – the scientific study of what works well. Different from mere positive thinking, it is based upon proven research into how we increase our well being. And this is the point from which engagement and accomplishments flow … another benefit from a Coach Approach training workshop!
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In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the late Stephen Covey begins with Habit #1: Be Proactive.
“Look at the word responsibility—’response-ability’—the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.”
He goes on to say: “The commitments we make to ourselves and to others, and our integrity to those commitments, is the essence and clearest manifestation of our proactivity.”
Think of the goal you would most like to focus upon in the weeks and months to come. What commitment will you make today to manifest your proactivity? How can coaching be a part of ensuring your success?
Professional workshops and conferences offer the stimulation of new learning and exciting connections, and this year’s “Sprachen und Beruf” in Berlin is no exception. Its goal is to encourage the training of effective business communication and intercultural skills within the current global economy. Anna is pleased to collaborate by presenting “The Coaching Element” with the able assistance of Sonia Ceresoni.
To further encourage and support the addition of the Coach Approach in training environments, we are adding a special bonus following this year’s Sprachen und Beruf conference. For all our workshops offered in-house, we will give each participant a FREE copy of our specialized e-book: “Coaching Toolkit for Business English Trainers”.
Here’s to working together to expand our collective toolkits!
Have you ever how wondered why some people manage to create tangible results and consistently reach their goals, while others just turn in circles and miss the mark completely? One simple way to understand the difference is to compare the mindset of STATES (or values) to GOALS (or outcomes).
When focusing on STATES:
- we state our outcomes ambiguously; when focusing on GOALS, we state our outcomes specifically
- we write affirmations; when focusing on GOALS, we write our desired outcomes and goals
- we think we should have it now; when focusing on GOALS, we acknowledge that time is involved in creating the necessary conditions for success
- we have no steps in mind; when focusing on GOALS, we start with the end in mind and work backwards to see the steps needed to get there
- the desired state seems immense and infinite in scope; when focusing on GOALS, we focus on measurable outcomes
- values are stated for self and/or others; when focusing on GOALS, they are stated for the self only.
Clear values are essential to inform us of our driving forces, of what provides meaning in our lives. We would invite you use them as fuel for your desired outcomes, and to fully enjoy the fruits of your success!