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- discover your professional purpose and embark on a career path you are proud of
- take action on your goals and dreams
- pursue what you truly love doing
- learn and apply productive goal achievement strategies that work
- become more productive, efficient and effective
- quit bad habits and revamp your lifestyle
- become more confident and break away from limiting beliefs
- reconnect with your inner self and true genius
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It’s a well known fact that we tend to overestimate the benefits of things that don’t serve us – think that extra cookie or glass of vino, whatever your weakness is, and overestimate the cost of things that do serve us well – going for that exercise routine, making that presentation at work.
Carrots and sticks, the ones we chase and we run from – let’s focus on better choices.
Take a weakness that you’ve been ignoring, what price is waiting for you down the road? Time to refocus?
Take a block that you’ve been avoiding, again – what’s the price of continued ignorance? Time to push through the fear and do it anyway?
Ok, action time, stop chasing the carrots and running from the sticks!
Get real about benefits and costs!
TBD, as defined by Ellen Degeneres, is the “Too Busy Disorder”. In our modern day and age, stress is no longer the problem – lack of recovery is the real problem!
What are some of the ways that you can use to recover from the disorder of constantly being too busy?
- going for a walk
- recreation/physical activity
- taking a vacation
- 24-hr technology break (no emails, SMS or phone calls)
Regular intermittent recovery is essential for a return to your best possible self. What are you waiting for?
DId you know that we can change our feelings by changing our thinking? When an event occurs, we interpret it in our thoughts, but not always in a rational way. When we learn to identify the ways in which we allow our thoughts to hijack our feelings, we can dispute these thoughts and begin to make lasting changes. Here then are the 3 M’s, some main ways in which our thoughts can misinterpret events:
1) Magnifying – exaggerating and over-generalizing, leading to all-or-nothing thinking (“this one setback means that I will always be a loser in every aspect of my life”)
2) Minimizing – underplaying, using tunnel vision to dismiss either positive or negative elements (“there is only bad [good] in this relationship”)
3) Making up – personalizing or blaming, emotional reasoning based on fabrications (“I feel rotten, therefore I am a rotten person”)
When we dispute these erroneous interpretations of reality, we actually change our old neural pathways and create new ones. By asking questions (“is my conclusion tied to reality, or am I ignoring something important?”) we can act as advocates for ourselves. So be your own lawyer and dispute your irrational thoughts – you’ll feel a whole lot better!
Have you ever noticed how some of the simplest questions can actually provide some of the most transformative answers? Here’s one of our favourite questions which we use with great results: “Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly gotten better?”
Helping clients to imagine that the miracle has already happened has powerful implications about the clients’ need to do something different. As their reflections begin flowing, they frequently describe improvements in detailed, behavioural terms – and they recognize their own involvement in implementing solutions!
We like to follow up with other questions such as: ” What would be the first thing you would do?”; “What would you have to do so that it would happen more often?”; “What else would you be doing differently?”.
What are some of the questions you could use to jump-start positive changes in your life and work?
Thank you to Valerie for sharing that amazing short video on Well Being in the previous post. Just love the structure, satisfying the conscious mind:
- Positive emotions
That got me thinking, time for the unconscious mind to play…
how can we develop these key areas to make life even more fulfilling?
In other words, how can we build on the best things in life?
How about posing one of these profound questions before you go to sleep and let the unconscious mind work on it, just watch out for the messages as it delivers the results!
Your insights please!
Working with a client today I realized yet again that, as women, our self-worth is something that is often underestimated, not by other people but – even worse – by ourselves!
Hiring a professional coach can be the fast track way of getting to the root of this issue, rediscover your true worth and claim back your power. For those of you however who, for some reason, are not in a position to do this here are some great self-coaching questions to ponder:
- When (at what specific situations) do you feel really great?
- What are you good at? What makes you a special person?
- What compliments do you receive from others?
- How will your life be different when you develop higher self-esteem? What will it feel like?
- In which areas would you like to develop self-esteem the most?
- How will you do that? Which skills do you need? Who can help you?
- What is it that you will be able to do/be/have when you have higher self-esteem?
- What is your specific goal in raising your self-esteem? How will you measure it and know for sure when you have reached it?
- What action steps can you take to claim that self-worth which is so rightfully yours?
- Who else will benefit by your stepping into confidence and claiming it for yourself?
10 questions to discover true worth and claim back power
1. When (at what specific situations) do you feel really great?
2. What are you good at? What makes you a special person?
3. What compliments do you receive from others?
4. How will your life be different when you develop higher self-esteem?
5. In which areas would you like to develop self-esteem the most?
6. How will you do that? Which skills do you need? Who can help you?
7. What is it that you will be able to do/be/have when you have higher self-esteem?
8. What is your specific goal in raising your self-esteem? How will you measure it and know for sure when you have reached it?
9. What action steps can you take to claim that self-worth which is so rightfully yours?
10. Who else will benefit by your stepping into confidence and claiming it for yourself?