Watch out for that high stress, constant anxiety over tasks and work and life, social anxiety … the modern way of life.
Decide to start this week with a sense of peace, of calm, of serenity.
You can’t control the things that happen to you much of the time, and you certainly can’t control how other people act. The only thing you can control is your response — and this response matters. You can respond to the same event with anxiety or anger, or you can respond with peace and calmness.
Let’s figure out how.
The Habits of Calmness
- A calm morning ritual. Find the quiet of the morning and make the most of it.
- Learn to watch your response. When something stressful happens, what is your response?
- Don’t take things personallyYou can learn not to interpret events as a personal affront, and instead see it as some non-personal external event (like a leaf falling, a bird flying by) that you can either respond to without a stressful mindset, or not need to respond to at all.
- Be grateful. Drop the complaints, and find a way to be grateful, no matter what. And then smile. This unbending habit can change your life.
- Create stress coping habits. Healthy stress coping habits include: exercise, yoga, meditation, massaging your own neck & shoulders, taking a walk, drinking some water, talking with someone you care about – which ones are you doing?
- Single-task. What if you just did one thing, and learned to trust that you shouldn’t be doing anything else? It takes practice: just eat. Just wash your bowl. Just walk. Just talk to someone. Just read one article or book, without switching. Just write. Just do your email, one at a time. You’ll learn that there is peace in just doing one thing, and letting go of everything else.
- Reduce noise. Our lives are filled with all kinds of noise — visual clutter, notifications, social media, news, all the things we need to read. Reduce all these things and more, create some space, some quiet, in your life.