If the grass looks greener on the other side… Stop staring. Stop comparing. Stop complaining and start watering the grass you’re standing on.
The American psychologist James Hillman first proposed the “acorn theory” in his book entitled “The Soul’s Code: In Search of Character and Calling”. He suggested that every individual already holds their potential inside themselves from birth, just as the acorn already holds the pattern for an oak tree. Each individual’s unique energy becomes actualized through their choices and actions in life once they answer their life calling, much like an acorn turns into an oak tree and matures when it finally blossoms. Without denying the existence of both nature and nurture in human development, let’s look at our own individual achievements, character, and aspirations and ask ourselves: “How am I responding to my inner acorn?”
In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the late Stephen Covey begins with Habit #1: Be Proactive.
“Look at the word responsibility—’response-ability’—the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.”
He goes on to say: “The commitments we make to ourselves and to others, and our integrity to those commitments, is the essence and clearest manifestation of our proactivity.”
Think of the goal you would most like to focus upon in the weeks and months to come. What commitment will you make today to manifest your proactivity? How can coaching be a part of ensuring your success?
The Coach Approach is to say “YES” to life: “yes” to all of it!
Don’t you just love that?
Say “yes” right now, this very second.
Shout it out “Yes, yes, yes, and again yes!”
How does that feel? Energized?
Now try this, “No.” “No, no, no, and again no!”
Feel any difference? If you’re like me, “Yes!” has a lightness, a zesty energy and “No!” has a heaviness, shutting down of energy.
Open up to ALL of life. The ups, the downs, the opportunities to let your soul shine.
Embrace it – shout out “Yes!”
… have you decided to be today??
What feelings or realization does this question raise in you?Whose shoulders does it put the responsibility and empowerment to change firmly upon?
Next time you’re in a situation where the external factors don’t mirror your internal picture of the ideal world, try asking yourself this very question. It all begins with a simple decision, and you can be off and running, taking the lead in your own life!
Remembering that we often present to the world a combination of both empowering and limiting stories, we might have the habit of choosing the parts of an experience that prove that we, and the world, are just as we think and expect. We also tend to ignore what doesn’t fit in with our personal view of things.
Taken that we then act on these stories and make decisions based on them, what are some of the stories you are telling yourself? Being aware of them and how they are affecting you could help you to choose more empowering and positive ways of living authentically.