It’s a well known fact that we tend to overestimate the benefits of things that don’t serve us – think that extra cookie or glass of vino, whatever your weakness is, and overestimate the cost of things that do serve us well – going for that exercise routine, making that presentation at work.
Carrots and sticks, the ones we chase and we run from – let’s focus on better choices.
Take a weakness that you’ve been ignoring, what price is waiting for you down the road? Time to refocus?
Take a block that you’ve been avoiding, again – what’s the price of continued ignorance? Time to push through the fear and do it anyway?
Ok, action time, stop chasing the carrots and running from the sticks!
Get real about benefits and costs!
10 questions to discover true worth and claim back power
1. When (at what specific situations) do you feel really great?
2. What are you good at? What makes you a special person?
3. What compliments do you receive from others?
4. How will your life be different when you develop higher self-esteem?
5. In which areas would you like to develop self-esteem the most?
6. How will you do that? Which skills do you need? Who can help you?
7. What is it that you will be able to do/be/have when you have higher self-esteem?
8. What is your specific goal in raising your self-esteem? How will you measure it and know for sure when you have reached it?
9. What action steps can you take to claim that self-worth which is so rightfully yours?
10. Who else will benefit by your stepping into confidence and claiming it for yourself?
In the compelling and powerful words of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, often quoted as being the founder of the Positive Psychology movement, ‘Of all the virtues we can learn, no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transfer adversity into an enjoyable challenge.’
In his book FLOW, the psychology of optimal experience he tells incredible stories of how prisoners-of-war survive solitary confinement by creating mental challenges to control consciousness during unbelievable adversity. The more stressful the situation, the more important it is to define challenges to move towards.
What about you? When situations in life are somewhat out of your control what goals can you create to challenge yourself? Sign up for a 10km charity run, self-publish that e-book that’s inside of you, go down a dress size…
More words of wisdom from the man himself, ‘when adversity threatens to paralyze us, we need to reassert control by finding a new direction…, a direction that lies outside external forces.’
What goals can you put your attention on to counterbalance rising stress levels, discover happiness and improve the quality of your life?
It’s June already, and we are half way through our calendar year. How has this year been for you up to this point? Is it manifesting as you pictured it back on January 1st?
Let’s take a moment right now to focus on the clarity of our visions and the quality of our inner lives. In this way our outer expression can become more harmonious and aligned with our values; it energizes us and allows us to make our greatest contributions. Continue by tapping in to some appreciations for this year so far. For greater results, write down at least five things you appreciate most about 2011 thus far. These are not necessarily all the happiest things that have occurred in your life. Instead, they may be events which have brought growth, more awareness, or the most personal development.
Your top 5 of 2011 list is up to you. What would you like to be, do and have more of in your top 5 for the second half of the year?
Helen Keller has been a pillar of inspiration for several generations of people, including yours truly. She was an American author, political activist and lecturer, and the first deafblind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree. Her life story has become known worldwide through film and stage productions of The Miracle Worker. Keller’s teacher, Anne Sullivan, believed in her student’s potential and helped her to break through the isolation imposed by a near complete lack of language. Helen blossomed as she learned to communicate, and her influence became widespread. Despite this, nothing was too menial or unimportant for her; instead, she found a way to make each undertaking meaningful. She wrote:
“I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.”
How do you transform your small daily tasks into something of value?
We are very excited about our latest event, we are offering a 2-day program in Montreal entitled “Coaching Mastery for Leadership”.
This workshop will follow the four-quadrant outline of HH2FF, that is: Inspiration, Implementation, Integration and Celebration.
The workshop will be held on July 19-20, 2010 at the Padua Centre for Urban Spirituality, and will be offered without charge.
Voluntary donations will go towards the inner city Padua Centre and its Black Youth Leadership program. Registration is limited to 30 participants, so be sure to reserve your spot in advance.
We are pleased to be offering this pro bono workshop as a way to live out our value of sharing with the community (while still being true to our other deep values: teamwork and having fun while continually learning!).