Here at The Coach Approach we know the importance of giving memorable presentations. At the core must be THE “Big Idea” – that is your KEY MESSAGE and then of course the big WHY, why your audience should care about it.
Since typically you are asking people to change their outlook or behaviour, it’s necessary to have a clear definition of what you want them to do. In addition, the Coach Approach includes an awareness of energy and flow. Often the desired audience transformation is seen as moving AWAY from old beliefs and behaviour, however more importantly it can be presented as moving TOWARDS what you’d like them to believe and how you want them to act.
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DId you know that we can change our feelings by changing our thinking? When an event occurs, we interpret it in our thoughts, but not always in a rational way. When we learn to identify the ways in which we allow our thoughts to hijack our feelings, we can dispute these thoughts and begin to make lasting changes. Here then are the 3 M’s, some main ways in which our thoughts can misinterpret events:
1) Magnifying – exaggerating and over-generalizing, leading to all-or-nothing thinking (“this one setback means that I will always be a loser in every aspect of my life”)
2) Minimizing – underplaying, using tunnel vision to dismiss either positive or negative elements (“there is only bad [good] in this relationship”)
3) Making up – personalizing or blaming, emotional reasoning based on fabrications (“I feel rotten, therefore I am a rotten person”)
When we dispute these erroneous interpretations of reality, we actually change our old neural pathways and create new ones. By asking questions (“is my conclusion tied to reality, or am I ignoring something important?”) we can act as advocates for ourselves. So be your own lawyer and dispute your irrational thoughts – you’ll feel a whole lot better!
In his address to the graduating class at Stanford, the late Apple CEO Steve Jobs wrote:
“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”
The Coach Approach specializes in training and coaching with a focus on values. Once your tribe is connected to goals with personal meaning, transformation and success are on their way!
Have you ever noticed how some of the simplest questions can actually provide some of the most transformative answers? Here’s one of our favourite questions which we use with great results: “Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly gotten better?”
Helping clients to imagine that the miracle has already happened has powerful implications about the clients’ need to do something different. As their reflections begin flowing, they frequently describe improvements in detailed, behavioural terms – and they recognize their own involvement in implementing solutions!
We like to follow up with other questions such as: ” What would be the first thing you would do?”; “What would you have to do so that it would happen more often?”; “What else would you be doing differently?”.
What are some of the questions you could use to jump-start positive changes in your life and work?
It’s that time of year again when we have turned the page and are facing our year end schedules. But let’s not think that we’re stuck in this end-of-year drama …
What if, at any time we choose, we could have a clean slate – a brand new beginning? What would you do differently if you gave yourself this gift of a completely fresh start?
This gift is available to every one of us any time we choose to receive it! By letting go of our focus on the past, we choose to practice compassion with ourselves and allow new seeds to emerge. Let’s not carry the weight of the past in the forefront of our minds, but instead consciously give ourselves the gift of a new beginning each morning.
In her “Daily Dream Builder”, Mary Morrissey writes:
“Every single thought we have is either into possibility or into limitation. We can choose thoughts that make things more difficult, such as when we believe that we have to do things solely with our own power.
There’s a story about a boy and his father who were going for a walk when they came upon a great big rock in the middle of the road. The little boy asked his dad, “Do you think I could move that rock if I tried really, really hard?” His dad said to him, “I believe that if you used all your strength you could move that rock just fine.” The little boy got down and pushed his shoulder against that rock –he pushed and pushed and couldn’t move the rock.
Finally, he turned to his dad and said, “You were wrong, I can’t move that rock.” And his father said, “No, son, I said that if you used all your strength you could; because part of your strength is in asking me to help.”
Thinking into limitation means you’ve got to do it all on your own. Thinking into possibility means you can ask for help when it’s needed.”
What is one specific example from your life where you can switch to thinking into possibility?
… have you decided to be today??
What feelings or realization does this question raise in you?Whose shoulders does it put the responsibility and empowerment to change firmly upon?
Next time you’re in a situation where the external factors don’t mirror your internal picture of the ideal world, try asking yourself this very question. It all begins with a simple decision, and you can be off and running, taking the lead in your own life!
“All transformation begins with the courage to explore and examine those beliefs that do not support us. We can then reinterpret how we see ourselves, others, and the world from a new perspective marked by compassion, understanding, and hope. ” [Dr. Joe Rubino)
We’re now one month into the New Year. How are you coming along with your intentions to tweak the areas of your life where you would like to see transformations? If you’re feeling the need to refresh your inspiration or motivation, you might start by taking a look at the following areas …
What beliefs will you let go in order to fully support your deepest aspirations? And remember, you can begin by integrating compassion, understanding and hope into all aspects of your own life:
5) Recreation and Fun
6) Spiritual Development